“It doesn’t take a study to tell us that a lack of sleep affects our cognitive capacities, but luckily, there are a lot of them. Sleep deprivation can affect everything from cognition to attention to decision-making.” ~ Alice G. Walton: ‘7 Ways Sleep Affects The Brain (And What Happens If It Doesn’t Get Enough).’
Okay, so we are not going to bug you with the importance of sleep. You are all a smart group of people and, more than likely, you have dealt already with lack of sleep once or twice.
Needless to say, sleep deprivation is considered a public health epidemic by the health experts at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).
Undoubtedly, our cognitive abilities decline rapidly when we fail to have enough sleep. To compensate, most of us usually hit the cursed snooze button; fill ourselves with large doses of caffeine; sleepwalk into our office; try to work somehow for eight hours – and spend the day at home in complete apathy.
The question then becomes: did we all learned our lesson? Too many of us do not for absurds reason.
Many people do not place the proper priority on their sleep. This unpleasant truth affects badly so many areas of our lives, including our love relationships.
Lack of sleep affects terribly your love
Many studies have reaffirmed the physical and mental toll our body has to take due to sleep deprivation. Considering that love relationships take up a large amount of our time and energy, it is hardly ever surprising to learn that sleep deficiency can cause severe damage.
Let’s say a few words about how having not enough sleep can do serious damage to your love life:
1.You are more impulsive
June Pilcher, a psychologist and professor at Clemson University in South Carolina, states:
“Self-control is part of daily decision-making…Studies have also found that sleep deprivation decreases self-control but increases hostility in people, which can create problems in the workplace and at home.”
This is an obvious statement here, but impulsivity and love relationships are mostly a dangerous combination.
Tip #1: Rather than snap at your spouse or children, get yourself at least 7 hours of good night sleep. You will wake up completely fresh, calm and ready to face the day.
2.Your libido declines
Research studies have associated sleep deprivation to low testosterone levels in both men and women. These findings make it important to understand that not only can sleep deprivation reduce your libido, but it also can result in impotence or frigidity.
The harmful effects of sleep deficiency; including low energy, fatigue, and sleepiness, usually have a diminishing – and potentially inhibitory impact on your libido.
Tip #2: A quick 10-minute meditation can help you to relax and induce your sleep. Focus your attention on your breathing in and out. Pay no attention to the random thoughts that pop into your head (at first, you will notice a whole bundle of them)
3.You are less attractive than before
Your love partner is in a relationship with you for many apparent reasons, including your good looks. While the innate human tendency to seek out a physically attractive individual fades a little after a while, it is still significant to us. When you feel healthy, you also feel more attractive and confident. In fact, both these characteristics are inseparable.
The authors of a Swedish study note the following:
“Our findings show that sleep-deprived people appear less healthy, less attractive, and more tired compared with when they are well-rested. This suggests that humans are sensitive to sleep-related facial cues, with potential implications for social and clinical judgments and behavior.”
Tip #3: If you are a coffee drinker or smoker, try abstaining 4-6 hours before going to bed.
4.You have less gratitude for the things in life
“Poor sleep may make us more selfish as we prioritize our own needs over our partner’s. Make sure to say ‘thanks’ when your partner does something nice,” says Amie Gordon, a psychology professor at the University of California at Berkeley.
You read that correctly: when you deprive yourself of sleep, you slowly lose your sense of gratitude. Given that it requires almost no effort to utter “Thank you”, the effort to come up with a meaningful idea must feel like lifting cinder bricks.
Tip #4: Make it your habit to fall asleep and wake up at the same time every day.
5.You exhibit a more hostile behavior
Every relationship has disagreements. No amount of sleep you get will negate this fact. However, adequate sleep may just make any verbal spat less aggressive.
Janice Kiecolt-Glaser, a relationship expert working at the Ohio State Institute for Behavioral Medicine Research, explains this with the following:
“When people (sleep less), it’s a little like looking at the world through dark glasses. Their moods are poorer. We’re grumpier. Lack of sleep hurts the relationship.”
Tip #5: We are all well aware of the fact that a heavy meal prior to bedtime is a bad idea. Experts at WebMD, on the other hand, suggest that having a small snack may help induce sleep.